How to Break Free of the Drama Triangle and Victim Consciousness

The Drama Triangle – also called the Karpman Drama Triangle – is a dysfunctional relationship pattern that is ‘played’ by so many that it looks as if it were normal. Until you learn about it and make it conscious.

There are three unconscious roles: The Victim, The Rescuer, and The Persecutor.

An imaginary chat – the characters and the story are entirely fictional…:

Alex:
I can’t believe this report is late again. I never get enough time. Nobody supports me here.
(Victim)

Sam:
Oh Alex, don’t worry. I’ll stay late and fix it for you. You’ve been under so much pressure.
(Rescuer)

Jordan:
This is exactly the problem. Alex is always behind, and Sam keeps helping. This is unprofessional.
(Persecutor)

Alex:
Wow, Jordan, that’s really unfair. You’re always attacking me instead of helping.
(Victim → Persecutor framing)

Sam:
Jordan, you’re way too harsh. Alex is doing his best.
(Rescuer → Persecutor)

Jordan:
Fine. Do whatever you want. Don’t blame me when this fails.
(Persecutor → Victim)