Why can’t I achieve what I want?
“The reason why I can’t achieve what I want is that I actually don’t think at my core that this is good enough for me.” If this resonates with you then this post may be for you. It takes courage,...
Why can’t I relax?
Does this resonate with you? “I can’t relax because that would mean that I had to give up my present life.”I am trying to phrase the same thing in another way: “I am afraid to relax because then I would...
Quick help for self-observation
FearShameAngerI feel like a victim.SadnessConfusionPanicI don’t know what I am feeling.I am muted What it is and its usageThis is a quick list that you can use to help yourself identify what you are feeling or thinking. Self-observation only works...
My consciousness and me
My consciousness and meMy consciousness is me in fact. If I have this image that there is my consciousness and there is me, then I am separating myself from consciousness. What a trick. ‘Me’, trying to convince myself that I...
The connection between my depression and laziness
Does this resonate with you?“I get lazy because if I had to be active then the pain behind my depression would be too great.”Described in a different way: “If I had to work ( especially do things that I don’t...
The connection between my depression and addictions
The cause(s) of my depressionDepression is caused by a sense of loss. I define loss as something that I lost or something that I did not get but I find I should have. The cause of my depression is mainly unconscious. I...
When does a change happen in me?
A change happens in me when I deeply and clearly see the problem I have about myself and realize that it is not true. Let’s do it through an example: Belly shameAlthough I write about it through a specific example and...
How do I stop waiting?
Am I right with my assumption that you think you are not doing anything now? Well, most probably that is not the case. In fact, you are probably very busy thinking. This is what may be happening. You are waiting for...
Fear of losing my safety
Fear is one of the hardest emotions to become conscious about. It goes deep and touches almost everything in most of us, yet it is very hard to consciously grasp what exactly we are afraid of. This article is for...
Why do people shame each other?
Why do people shame each other? We immediately recognize and admit that it exists almost everywhere, yet it is not obvious why people do it. And I don’t think we realize how widespread it is in our everyday life.Shame is...