I want to be better than others. Why? Below is an ideation of its causes. If you are coming to the realization that this is a core problem of yours then this post may help you to move closer to it. It only may as certainly, the job is to find your own thoughts and beliefs that cause this and realize them deeply.
(These are provocative statements for the sake of triggering a change.)
Why do I want to be better than others?
- I have made it the core goal of my life.
- This is useful. But why did I do that? Where does it come from? Not everybody has this wish. There must be a personal reason.
- It feels good to think this way.
- Ok, but why? What is this good feeling that I get from it? Is it some kind of satisfaction that I finally made it? (Ah, ok, so there is a goal that I set for myself.)
- I come from a poor family.
- This is how I want to help my family…
- This is how I don’t want to be like my family members…
- I have the inner feeling that it is just simply true. And I am waiting for it to happen finally.
- Am I absolutely sure that I am superior to others?
- I hate feeling that I am worse than others.
- I never want to feel this way.
- My logic is that I am either better or worse. And this is how I see others think also.
- I know that there is a thing called a superiority complex and the cause is that deep down I feel inferior.
- I feel no deepness in this statement.
- It feels good to think that people look up to me.
- I have this inner image that people look at me and respect me. More than respect actually: Admiration. And a bit of envy. Oh, that also feels good.
- I don’t want to face my reality.
- This is a good escape if I think that I am better than others.
- (I realize that this is not a cause.)
- This thought has formed in the past.
- Actually, I do not tell people that I am better than them. I want them to see it. I think they see it.
- I even act kind, generous, and helpful. Mostly. This is how superior people behave, right?
- I am realizing that this belief is ruining my relationships and other parts of my life.
- I am afraid I will never get rid of this. It is so much part of me.
- (Kind note: There is nothing wrong with you. It is a belief. Not you. Maybe I can prove it; Think this over: Somebody in you said this sentence “I am afraid I will never get rid of this”. Somebody in you is already ‘dis-identifying’ from it.)
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It is all about achievement in our society
It would be hard not to see. This post is not about why our cultures and societies contain this currently. Anyways, if you are presently working on figuring out why you cannot achieve what you want, then this post may be of interest to you.
