“I feel abandoned. And there is something fundamentally important behind it.” If this resonates with you, then this self-inquiry exercise may be valuable to you.
(While the below inner dialogue certainly may not be fully about you, it is real. It isn’t altered for a more pleasurable experience, only for readability. If you find it useful, then do your own self-reflection.)
Note that this is a somewhat different self-inquiry from the others, as some parts have been left out. You will probably catch where.
Self-inquiry on why I feel lonely
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(More importantly, why can I just not get out of my loneliness?)
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Obviously, I feel lonely because I am abandoned.
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I know and feel that my problem is abandonment, but still, I am not over it.
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It is a dead end this way. There must be something more to it.
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After a lot of self-reflection and inquiry, this is what I got to: My problem is that I feel betrayed.
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I gave everything into the relationship, and the other person betrayed me by not taking our relationship seriously.
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This is a morality issue for me.
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And this is beyond the two of us.
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How can we, humans, have this capacity to betray one another? I am not talking about carelessness. I am talking about outright ignorance.
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This is what my morality cannot digest at the moment, and this is the reason why I cannot get out of my loneliness.