Does this resonate with you? “I feel that I am missing something from my life.” If so, then this exercise may be valuable to you.
The below is a possible flow of thoughts, emotions, and associations that come up in the mind when doing self-observation on this thought. It is meant to help you go deeper into this thought and stimulate you. By no means it is implied that it is the only flow or it is the same for everyone.
(If you are new to the concept of self-observation or looking for some practical guidance then maybe read this article: How Self-Observation Works)
Self-Observation on my feeling of missing something from my life
- I am missing something but I cannot say what.
- I feel sad.
- I blame other people and the world around me for not giving me what I want. It is their fault.
- It is not worth doing things.
- This thought makes me nervous and panicky.
- I don’t know what to do about it, how to get out of it.
- I cannot breathe normally. I keep my breath back.
- I feel as if this is my main belief about my life. How I am.
Chain of thoughts coming when I am able to go deeper
- I am sad because I have this image that ‘I did not get the things I wanted. The things that I deserved.’
- I know that I have been feeling like this since I can remember.
- Then I start to think that I am selfish and spoiled to think such things. But it does not help.
- Then I start to think that it is not that bad. It is better but I still have the pain in the back of my mind. I know it is just a matter of time that it comes back.
- Then I sort of realize that I am trying to convince myself that my feeling of missing something is not real. This is how I protect myself.
- Then I realize that I am right. I did not get the things I wanted and thought that I deserved. It doesn’t hurt that much now that I could be honest with myself. It is a bit better now, there has been a small shift.
- I see that my honesty helped me to let go of my protection a little bit. I call it honesty, it may be something else.
Notes
- If you are new to the practice of self-observation then here are some ideas that can help: It is very powerful if you write down your thoughts (like with an old-school diary). It is also very powerful if you phrase your thoughts and emotions in a short and basic way.
- Self Chatter is a self-development tool and one of its major goals is to help with self-observation as a major tool to raise your consciousness. Thus you will find these types of self-observations on Self Chatter.
(None of the articles on Self Chatter are generated by AI.)