"Rest doesn't make the bad feeling. It uncovers what doing was covering. The worse-after isn't a malfunction; it's the backlog finally getting through."
If this resonates with you, what follows may help you see something about yourself.
Seeker
I took the weekend off. Like, properly off. And by Sunday night I felt worse than I did on Friday. What’s the point.
Companion
Worse how? Like tired-worse, or something else?
Seeker
Not tired. More like… heavy. Kind of anxious. A bit sad for no reason. I was supposed to feel recharged.
Companion
Yeah, I know that one. The “I rested correctly, why am I not fixed” thing. I’ve hit that too.
Seeker
It’s stupid. I should be able to take two days off without spiraling.
Companion
Hold on, can I ask something basic? When you were resting, what were you actually doing?
Seeker
Lying around. Watched some stuff. Went for a walk. Didn’t open my laptop, that was the whole point.
Companion
And the heavy feeling, when did it start showing up. Like Saturday morning? Sunday?
Seeker
Saturday afternoon, I think. Once I’d done the morning stuff and there was nothing left to do.
Companion
Okay. This is a guess and you can tell me I’m off. But it sounds like the bad feeling showed up when the doing stopped. Not because the rest broke something. Because the doing was holding something down.
Seeker
I mean, sure, but that’s a kind of convenient explanation. “You feel bad because you finally stopped.” That’s just spin.
Companion
Fair. Push back on it. Why does it feel like spin?
Seeker
Because if that were true, the answer would be to rest more and feel worse for longer, and that doesn’t sound like a plan.
Companion
Yeah, that’s a real objection. I don’t have a clean answer to that. I just notice you said “a bit sad for no reason.” And I don’t fully believe the “for no reason” part.
Seeker
…what do you mean?
Companion
I mean when you stopped moving, something specific showed up. Sad about what, do you actually know?
Seeker
I don’t know. I had this thought on Saturday that I haven’t talked to my brother in like four months. And I just sort of pushed past it and put a show on.
Companion
Okay.
Seeker
And there was a thing about work I’ve been not thinking about. That came up too.
Companion
So stuff arrived.
Seeker
Yeah. Stuff arrived. And then I felt heavy. And then I decided rest doesn’t work for me.
Companion
Hm.
Seeker
I’m doing the thing, aren’t I? I’m calling the messenger the problem.
Companion
Maybe. I don’t want to put it on you too neatly. But yeah, something like that.
Seeker
It’s annoying because it means rest isn’t going to feel good for a while. It’s going to feel like whatever’s been waiting in line.
Companion
That tracks with what you said, yeah.
Seeker
I was kind of hoping you’d tell me I just need a better Sunday routine.
Companion
I know. I’m sorry it’s not that.
Seeker
Yeah.
What's been waiting in line that only gets through when you stop moving?
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