The reason why self-confidence is important is that it enables you to decide and act freely. It mobilizes you and helps you to break through.

Without it, your actions (more importantly the thoughts and emotions that result in your actions) will not fully come from your true Self but from your self-binding thoughts. This way your actions will lead to results that are not the best for you.

Let’s define self-confidence

I define self-confidence in two.

The absence of self-doubt

I define the absence of self-doubt as the inner knowing that there is nothing wrong with me. 

The desire to do what is right

Whether I believe in some universal morals or not, I can hardly imagine self-confidence without this desire. I cannot exactly define what I mean by “do what is right”. The closest I can point to is kindness. The word desire is also important…

They are interconnected but not the same. One can exist without the other but only one will not result in self-confidence. The absence of self-doubt is a state of mind, and the desire to do what is right is a personal trait. They together give the feeling of being alive and making a breakthrough that makes us so free when we have self-confidence. The inner knowing that we are doing something life-giving.

What self-confidence is not

• Self-confidence is not puffed-up pride. 
• Self-confidence is not fearlessness. 
• Self-confidence is not about thinking that you know better or you are better.
• Self-confidence is not about thinking that you are all-knowing.
• The strongest sign of self-confidence is our ability to realize our shortcomings.
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