Does this resonate with you? “I cannot figure out what I am missing from my life with my general, everyday mindset. It is beyond it.” If so, then this exercise may be valuable to you.
Self-observation on what I am missing
- I’ve come to the conclusion that the root of my hardships is that I am constantly missing something from my life.
- This feeling of lack shows up everywhere and I see how much this is shaping my whole outlook on life.
- I have been looking everywhere and try to find what I am missing. Or what I have lost.
- I deeply looked into my past. My childhood, my traumas, and how I developed shame, resentment, and anger. And all the rest of it.
- I also see how much love and joy I have had. And all the successes.
- And I have this constant feeling in the back of my mind that something is missing.
- Before I understood the effect of past events on my life. That understanding helped then. It is helpful today also but I understand very well that there is more to it.
- There is a sequence of steps in development. There is understanding that helps to develop the next one. Usually a deeper one.
- This feeling of lack is deeper. It is not just that things didn’t happen in the past the way I had hoped. Today those events serve as mere eye-openers for me. They are here to help.
- I suddenly come to the realization that what I am missing is commitment.
- Why do I have this realization? What does it mean? This understanding that what I miss is commitment feels happy. And fearful.
- Commitment to what we usually call God.
- Things aren’t in place without this.
- This is what I am missing.
The above is a possible flow of thoughts, emotions, and associations that come up in the mind when doing self-observation on this thought. It is meant to help you go deeper into this thought and stimulate you. By no means it is implied that it is the only one or it is the same for everyone.
(If you are new to the concept of self-observation or looking for some practical guidance then maybe read this article: How Self-Observation Works)
Notes
- If you are new to the practice of self-observation then here are some ideas that can help: It is very powerful if you write down your thoughts (like with an old-school diary). It is also very powerful if you phrase your thoughts and emotions in a short and basic way.
- Self Chatter is a self-development tool and one of its major goals is to help with self-observation as a major tool to raise your consciousness. Thus you will find these types of self-observations on Self Chatter.
(None of the articles on Self Chatter are generated by AI.)