Does this resonate with you? “The success I wish for myself is most probably blocked by my fear.” If so, then this exercise may be valuable to you.
Self-observation on why I am not successful enough
- I imagine myself very differently inside than how my life is on the outside.
- I dream of becoming successful but it just doesn’t seem to happen.
- I am continuously trying everything. Harder and harder. Sometimes I am trying to be smarter, more self-confident, and even tried to ‘believe the universe will help me’.
- It is a constant struggle. I just know instinctively that it should not be a never-ending battle and overwhelm.
- There must be something that can change this situation.
- When I think of my abilities, my self-confidence drops.
- Still, it is not about my abilities. Many others have less in many areas and they are still more successful than me.
- When I observe myself, I feel a great level of uneasiness.
- This uneasiness comes from my desire to achieve.
- My mindset is that if I push it more, I will achieve what I want.
- No, this is not the way. There must be a better way.
- I admit I don’t know what to do exactly.
Chain of thoughts coming when I am able to go deeper
- Something is blocking me.
- I am not able to be myself.
- I am afraid to be myself. This is the block in me.
- I have low self-confidence and this is why reaching success is a struggle.
- No.
- Behind my low self-confidence is fear. Simple fear. Fear of losing my safety.
- The block is not my low self-confidence. That thought of myself that I have low self-confidence only happens as a result of my fear. The key is my fear.
- This is why I don’t ‘dare to jump’ and do what is needed for my success.
- And the way it works is that I block myself from being who I really am.
- I am not able to be that vibrant person who I want to be.
- This fear is teaching me to see who I really am.
- This fear might even be more than that. I may be able to transform it into something that I miss now in myself.
- I will think about what I would like to transform my fear – my new friend – into.
The above is a possible flow of thoughts, emotions, and associations that come up in the mind when doing self-observation on this thought. It is meant to help you go deeper into this thought and stimulate you. By no means it is implied that it is the only one or it is the same for everyone.
(If you are new to the concept of self-observation or looking for some practical guidance then maybe read this article: How Self-Observation Works)
Notes
- If you are new to the practice of self-observation then here are some ideas that can help: It is very powerful if you write down your thoughts (like with an old-school diary). It is also very powerful if you phrase your thoughts and emotions in a short and basic way.
- Self Chatter is a self-development tool and one of its major goals is to help with self-observation as a major tool to raise your consciousness. Thus you will find these types of self-observations on Self Chatter.
(None of the articles on Self Chatter are generated by AI.)