“The mindset change for true success in my life comes from the recognition that I have to walk away from things that are not for me.” If this resonates with you then this post may be valuable for you now.

Take it as a truly valuable step that you realize you do things that are not for you. After this – not so easy – recognition, it probably already sounds obvious that it is hard to be successful in something that is not natural for you.

For most of us, our first idea is to push harder in what we do currently or search for what to do that will make us happy and successful. And these tactics usually do not work. Why? Because our current thought patterns will most likely get us to the same place again where we are now. 

What can help rather is this deep recognition that may be described in a short thought as ‘I am fed up.’. When I have such an ‘Ok, I am done.‘ moment, then I have a window of opportunity to realize that it is actually the situation that is flawed. Not me.

• Are you angry currently? Cool. That is not only a healthy feeling but also your power. That will help you to say bye-bye to wonderland. Just make sure you don’t hurt anyone or anything. Use your anger to transform your life for the better. 
• Are you depressed? You can use that pain to realize what to let go of. And what to let happen… 
• Will it be fearful to walk away? Yes, because you are walking away from things – read beliefs – that you probably chose so that you feel safe.

The majority of people don’t do what they really like and aren’t happy (about 98%). But they act as if they were. I am just saying this here so that maybe you don’t fall into this trap as many times as I did. That I tried to copy other people – ‘the happy and successful ones’. And ended up in misery.

Maybe you feel like an outsider. And that may just mean that you are connecting the dots and so you are creating the opportunity you want for yourself. 

(This article is about one major recognition, but you may be looking for a deeper understanding of why you do things that are not for you. That is beyond the scope of this article but I dare to recommend you to look around this site. A lot of content here can help you in your search. One of the best ways to gain awareness and take things into your own hand is self-observation. SelfChatter is about that. Here are two tips if you fancy: Quick help for self-observation and The strength of phrasing my thoughts in a short and basic way.)