Why do I have a problem with limits?

“I have a problem with limits because deep down I find it hard to finish things.” If this resonates with you, then this self-inquiry exercise may be valuable to you.

Self-Observation on why I have a problem with limits

What’s causing my problem with limits?

• I get irritated easily. This is true for most things around me. Be it people, situations, the food I eat; almost anything ‘outside’ of me.
• I have this internal image that situations are irritating and hard and are always like this.
• I know it is a cliché but I can trace this feeling back to my childhood.
• I have this feeling – an image – that I am in a situation that I don’t like and this situation wants something from me that I don’t like. But I need to stay in this situation.
• So I am just sitting in it and getting ever more irritated.
• I feel I always need to fight not to let things into my own space. 
• I just realize that the problem is mine. I mean, sure situations are hard but I find every situation hard.
• Oh…There is something behind the irritation that I kind of see now.
• It is not the irritation but the fact that it is hard to ‘live with it, hard get out of it’. I mean that now I find it is ok to be irritated by things that are in fact irritating. My problem is that I find it literally impossible to solve it for myself. And that is because I find everything so hard to ‘solve’, finish. This is the key for me.
• My problem with limits and my view that it is hard to finish, and ‘accomplish’ things are not in a cause-and-effect relationship. What I mean is that I can not separate one from the other and say that one causes the other. They are together.

The above self-observation exercise is just one possible flow of associations. It is meant to stimulate you, and by no means is it implied that it is about you.